Find Local Treatment Options
Call 800-481-6320 to speak with an alcohol or drug abuse counselor.

Resentments Will Prevent You from Succeeding in a Rehab Center

It is perfectly natural to enter a rehab center filled with guilt and shame and resentments. When you are living as an addict, your drug use becomes the most important thing in your life and it will undermine every important relationship you have. People on both sides of the divide are bound to find themselves filled with negative emotions and a desire to point the finger. For a free treatment referral, call 800-481-6320.

Through therapy at a rehab center, you will begin to look at the way that you function and the things in life that contribute to your substance use disorder. When you let negative emotions cloud those activities, you impede progress and your resulting recovery.

However, this isn’t an instruction to simply let go of everything in one fluid motion of forgiveness. That isn’t possible. People just do not work like that. Instead, you are going to have to do the work and the people around you are going to have to do their work, too, because you can’t live for them.

Finding a professional, structured rehab center than can help you to work through your resentments and succeed at recovery will not be east on your own. Take advantage of the expertise offered by RehabCenters.com. Call 800-481-6320 to discuss funding, have your questions answered, and to be connected with the rehab that is right for you.

Triggering Resentment

Resentments

Unrealistic expectations will prevent you from succeeding in treatment.

Resentments occur when entitlement or unrealistic expectations are combined with impatience. For example, the following are possible thoughts that breed resentment for people in treatment:

  • I am in recovery, why haven’t my parents completely forgiven me?
  • I have been in this rehab center for three days, why haven’t I received letters from everyone in my family?
  • My boss better reward me for seeking help.
  • I wasn’t invited to join a group in the rehab center; they must think they are too good for me.

When you begin to think like this, you develop a resentment and it will fester into a full-blown infection. In the examples, the expectation is that you should be immediately compensated for giving up the drugs that you love. That is an unrealistic expectation and the immediacy of the expectation is the impatience. You should be connecting more to what sobriety offers than how you have given up the drugs or alcohol that you love.

It’s important that you use your time at a rehab center to pause when you feel yourself becoming impatient about an expectation. Don’t assume anything; look into everything. Look under the resentment; what is hiding there. Are you acting out of fear or a feeling of inadequacy? Be willing to let go of these feelings. It will take practice.

Resentment Breeds Guilt

Two big emotions that impede success in recovery are guilt and shame.  The National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) has an archived manual that illuminates that difference between the two. “Shame refers to negative beliefs about oneself; for example, one is a weak, worthless, or deficient person. Guilt refers to the belief that one has engaged in wrongful behavior, such as stealing to obtain money for drugs.”

An article in Frontiers in Psychology explains how resentment relates to the two. Guilt comes from acts or omissions that can cause indignation, anger or, even, resentment in others. Making reparations can dissipate the response, but you could equally live in fear of punishment or inflict it on yourself.  Shame is usually a response to possible contempt or derision.

How does this matter? Resentment causes guilt and guilt undermines successful recovery. If you can stop resentments on all sides, you lessen the chances that guilt develops.

The Single Most Important Recovery Habits that Could Change Your Life

Questions to Ask Yourself

When you feel resentment building up, take time to ask:

  • What does it represent for you to hang onto these feelings?
  • What would it take to accept that you have been wronged or hurt and that you cannot change that?
  • What does it represent to take ownership for your own feelings?
  • Finally, who pays the price for hanging onto these feelings?
  • Right now, are you willing to let go of these feelings?

Your rehab center will provide therapy that will help you move past resentments and control triggering them, but you have to commit to the program to make it work.

To get the process started, call 800-481-6320. Don’t let resentments slow you down.

More Rehab Centers Resources

Addiction and Homelessness: Interconnected Battles

When it comes to abusing drugs and alcohol, the consequences can be extreme. There are legal ramifications, damage to family relationships, and issues that arise at work. But a common occurrence that doesn’t get a lot of light shined on it is the relationship between addiction and homelessness. Stability Is Hard for Addicted Individuals Homelessness….

Continue reading

How Long Does Therapeutic Community Treatment Last?

A therapeutic community (TC) is a type of treatment program that many residential rehab centers use to help recovering addicts learn better behaviors associated with drug use, socialization and combatting negative perceptions and attitudes held by those individuals. This type of treatment program can be confrontational and is usually very structured, but it is often….

Continue reading

What Can’t I Bring to My Rehab Center?

Many people consider what they should bring to their rehab center before treatment, but some forget that there are prohibited items as well that will not be allowed in the facility. It is important to know what not to bring to your rehab facility before you begin treatment. If you are looking for safe, reliable….

Continue reading

Is My Husband an Alcoholic?

There is help for your husband!

A common question that many wives have is whether or not their husband is an alcoholic. Let’s face it, many men (and women) like to drink on a regular basis—but does this make every one of them an alcoholic? Not necessarily! There is more to being an alcoholic than simply having a few beers with the guys after….

Continue reading

How to Visit Your Loved One in Their Rehab Center

As stated by the National Institute on Drug Abuse, “Involvement of a family member or significant other in an individual’s treatment program can strengthen and extend treatment benefits.” It is common for someone in a residential or inpatient rehab center to feel disconnected from their loved ones, and vice-versa, but visiting your friend, spouse, or….

Continue reading

Does It Help to Have Visitors During Rehab?

The involvement of loved ones in addiction treatment is one of the best possible factors when it comes to a person’s recovery. “Involvement of a family member or significant other in an individual’s treatment program can strengthen and extend treatment benefits,” keep the individual in the program longer, and provide them with the kind of….

Continue reading

5 Qualities of the Best Addiction Treatment Programs

addiction treatment

Addiction is more than an individual problem. It has repercussions across a broad range of family dynamics with health and social implications that have reached epidemic proportions. According to the 2013 National Survey on Drug Use and Health,” In 2013, an estimated 24.6 million Americans aged 12 or older were current (past month) illicit drug….

Continue reading

Understanding Drug Rehab Insurance Options

Drug rehab insurance can help you with the high costs of rehab.

Many insurers cover drug treatment to some extent whether it’s comprehensive coverage that will pay for the entire cost of a drug rehab center or your insurer only covers certain aspects of treatment it’s important to understand what you options are for drug rehab insurance before you enter into a treatment program. Some questions you….

Continue reading

Still can't find the help you are looking for?Get Started Now
Accepted Insurances / View the full list
For inquiries call800-481-6320

Accepted Insurances Does My Insurance
Cover This?

Pin It on Pinterest

Shares
Share This